Choosing Forgiveness

Yes, hardship does change you, but it's your choice if you'll choose the nectar of forgiveness or the sour sting of bitterness. I hope you choose the first.

I hope you let mercies drink cover you in serenity. I hope you know there's no liabilities with it. I hope you embrace its refreshment and never grow dehydrated. I hope you offer it to yourself as much as you give it.

In addition, when we allow ourselves to feel through our wounds we actually get to show up authentically. People pleasing and self abandonment were both the methods I used to avoid rejection. Then I got rejected… Hey, I'm alive, the grass is green, God's still good, and the world didn't burn. I'm not, nor anyone is, everyone's cup of tea. However, you're allowed to like yourself. 

You're allowed to start over, and you're allowed to change.

In addition, it's true that you might lose people in the pruning. The familiar connections that resonated with those unhealed parts will no longer align because you're taking action to do the work.

As long as you are rooted in God, like a tree near a stream, you will never go thirsty. As long as you're committed to that relationship with Him, He's going to make it work for you. 

We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him. Romans 8:28

You are not outside of that promise and all of His promises are true for you as much as it is for the next person. Treat yourself lovingly. If the God of the universe can fully love and forgive you, we can surely learn to offer those things to ourselves and others.

I know forgiveness takes time. The hurt, grief, and disappointment doesn't just turn off like a light switch nor should it. You have to honor and feel through your emotions. Maybe you need to even examine what led to the event, what you can do better, and what action steps you'd like to take first. Forgiveness is a process, and don't shame yourself for where you're at. 

Allow what is and take baby steps in the direction you want to go. Forgiveness will come when you're ready, and I hope you give it to yourself just as much as you offer it to others.